The Three Question Quest

Philosophy for Life

There is a tale of an ancient emperor who sought an overall philosophy of life. After years of meditation and searching he determined he only needed to find the answers to three major questions.

1. What is the most important time?

2. Who is the most important person?

3. What is the most important thing to do?

To make a long story short, I'll skip to the answers he found.

1) The most important time is NOW. This one is pretty easy and you probably already thought of it. The only time we ever have is now. You can't change the past and you can only make plans for the future. The only time you will ever be able to effect is the moment you are in right now. At this moment, you are reading my website. Thank you, that makes me happy. If something pops into your head that you would like to do, go ahead and do it now. Is there someone you've thought about recently and haven't talked to in a long while? Call them..........now. This page will be here when you're done. I can wait. Is there someone in your life you need to forgive?  See above for directions. Never wait on impulses, you may not get a second chance.

2) The most important person is THE ONE YOU ARE WITH. This one isn't quite as obvious but once you spend time thinking it over, it makes perfect sense. Humans are social animals. We love to talk about ourselves and most of us never seem to think of anything but ourselves. If you truly treat everyone you encounter as the most important person to you at that moment, you will never lack in friends. Treat everyone you encounter as if they are the celebrity you've always wanted to meet. Ask them questions and really listen to what they have to say. Anyone who has been in a failed relationship knows that they can track that failure to not feeling important anymore. In the beginning of a romantic relationship, everything is fresh and you try and learn as much about the other person as you can. They truly are the most important person to you and things are great. As time winds on, we lose touch and don't talk as much. We assume we know the other person so we stop asking questions. Treating your partner as the most important person on a daily basis is the secret to a happy relationship. Now, you may be saying, "If I make everyone else the most important thing in my life, when will I have a life of my own?" The answer is simple and best described with a question back to you: Who are you with most out of every day of your life? Yourself of course. When you are alone, which in today's culture seems to be an ever-increasing percentage, you should treat yourself as if you are the most important person. Spend time to praise yourself for your successes and forgive yourself for your faults.

3) The most important thing to do is TO CARE. Care in everything you do. Care for everyone you talk to. You should put one hundred percent into everything you do. Care about the outcome of your choices and you'll start making better choices.

When you put all three together, happiness is within grasp. Take every moment and really care about the things you do and the people you are with. Put effort into your relationships (including with yourself) and deeply care about the results. That will create a positive life.

That is my quest. To make these philosophies a daily part of my life and to develop true friendships with people. It isn't easy. I'm a bit of an introvert and I find it hard to put myself out there sometimes. If you meet me and find that I'm not living what I preach here, call me out on it. The only way we can evolve is through criticism and evaluation. I want to evolve. I want to meet you and learn your story.